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Gaining the trust of first timer submissives 11/27/2006
I sincerely think that there are a number of so called Doms
that never listen to a submissives needs. No joking, to
build up trust is the first priority, then you can extend
limits, introduce new ideas. Whenever I have a newbie submissive
I explain what I intend to do and ask if there is anything
that they are unhappy about. If there is we discuss it, if
necessary modify the idea. ...
1 Comments,
378 Views,
17 Votes
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What it Means to be a slave 11/14/2006
I may have a different definition of a slave than most so
I will explain that first. For Me, a slave is not someone
who gives up their rights as human beings. A slave is someone
that in many ways must be just as strong as their Dominant.
Case in point. At a run, a Dominant may want to stay out late
and play and may not have eaten. The slave must be the one
who makes sure the Dominant ...
0 Comments,
418 Views,
25 Votes
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What it Means to be a Ma'am 11/14/2006
"Ma'am, all I want to do is be of service to You."
Sounds familiar, doesn't it? But the real surprise
to most people is that, in many ways, the Ma'am is in
service to Her property. This contradiction in terms is
the cornerstone of being a Dominant. I will be discussing
Lifestyle, 24/7 Dominance and submission. These concepts
don't necessarily apply to all situations or relationships, ...
3 Comments,
336 Views,
28 Votes
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trust 11/14/2006
i have given this some thought, and still havent come up
with the right answer. Is there an right answer?? How do
you let your gaurd down to trust someone? You hear of bad
things happening all the time and that scares me, we play
in a world that can be scary, but i think thats the fun of it.
But can it be taken too far?
3 Comments,
125 Views,
6 Votes
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How soon is too soon? 10/21/2006
Do you think that you should give up everything all at once
or space it over a period of time? I've thought about
this from time to time. I'm an honest person really
so I dont lie all you have to do is ask? So not letting someone
know something about you seems decietfully almost. Not
that you should give complete strangers your whole life
story, but if you really think that this person is ...
5 Comments,
209 Views,
11 Votes
,4.10 Score
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Are Harems Okay 10/17/2006
Ive been wondering if people think that having many subs
is okay? My Master has his little harem, I call them since
I dont include myself personally in with them. Is that wrong...?
im the jealous type so it took some getting used to. But I
finally gave over control of those issues to him and asked
what I needed and now I feel better....
5 Comments,
236 Views,
7 Votes
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Sub Drop-a very real phenomena 10/13/2006
"Sub-Drop"
Over my experiences in the lifestyle it has never ceased
to amaze and frustrate me how many people understand what
'sub-space' is, but have no idea what 'sub-drop'
is. The truth of the matter is I discovered what it was by
experiencing it, and asking for help. I was asked if I was
experiencing 'sub-drop' and after a long discussion
I was both relieved and worried, to admit ...
18 Comments,
953 Views,
68 Votes
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Sleep Deprivation training , a view on the STORY OF " O" 9/29/2006
this is a pat 2 of an explroration of "o"
Well how do you do it and why , depriving someone of sleep
REMEMBER THIS IS A CONSENTING ACTIVITY .... NEXT I do not
recomend doing this , i am fiction writer .. so do not fucking
sue me ..you stupid motherfuckers!
If done totally for like 4 days a person enters a pyshcoes
, so do not fucking do that .. this shit ...
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136 Views,
4 Votes
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Looking For Info 9/22/2006
I am looking for consent forms, or anything of the sort.
Trying to find forms and documents to havemy sub complete
to see what she is willing to submit too and what she isn't.
Still new at this and I haven't built up my library of
knowledge yet. If you have any please help me.
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0 Votes
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Trust and Safety 9/21/2006
Knowledge and safety in all areas cannot be emphasized
enough.
Knowing yourself, both as a top/dom and as a sub/bottom
is so important, as is learning about knowing and understanding
your partner.
I feel that one of the best ways to learn and teach is by open
communication, offering examples and sharing experiences.
Here is an experience I had.
An example of ...
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3 Votes
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Mind Over Matter 9/18/2006
SO YOU'RE LOOKING ..... Aren't we all and do we
ever stop looking???? Ya right, lie to yourself if ya want
but we all know the search never ends. We look because we
can and we always carry that curiosity itch. Primary to
our search is to find that person or people that blend into
what satisfies us, our needs, our desires. Some times that's
found in pleasing them or pleasing you or pleasing ...
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7 Votes
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My last business trip 9/12/2006
I checked into a hotel on a business trip and was a bit lonely
so I thought I'd get me one of those girls you see advertised
in phone booths when your calling for a cab.
I grabbed a card on my way in. It was an ad for a girl calling
herself Erogonique, a lovely girl, bending over in the
photo.
She had all the right ...
0 Comments,
963 Views,
11 Votes
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going nowhere 9/9/2006
Hello .Iam finding it very difficult to get any response
from any of the women on this site.Its very frustrating.Im
a very shy type of person and find it difficult to express
my sexual fantasies.I know im anonymous, which makes
it easier.I want to explore and have fun but im just a loser.I
obviously am ugly or unsuitable for some reason.Being
a loner isnt easy for me.
I want to be ruled ...
3 Comments,
174 Views,
1 Votes
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She is MY cunt !! 8/30/2006
She is my cunt
Look at the animal world , males battle each other to insure
their sperm lives ! now females go to be protected by a strong
male that has more than one female , in fact the scent of woman
attracts females .
I had divorce court today , first time I have really seen
my adorable lil 25 year old future ex wife in a year ..( dam
this case ...
2 Comments,
256 Views,
7 Votes
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What do you think? 8/29/2006
To what I beleive about relationships I consider the experimentation
to be an excitement, part of the entire me and you forever
thing. But many guys as well as girls are affraid to let go
even in a safe secure environment. Some guys are affraid
to be called freaks, weird, homo(nothing personal), and
every other word that might hurt their manhoods. Women
in the other hand the only hting ...
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tough someitmes in london 8/23/2006
I have of late why i know not lost all my mirth and indeed it
goes so heavily with my disposition why those who desire
a certain aspect of life suddenly forget that desire when
faced with the possibility of fufilling it.
It apparently becomes too much of a risk to their cosy life
to extend beyond the boundries of what they have been used
to and are content to continue in their normal ...
0 Comments,
84 Views,
2 Votes
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How can you build a succesfull relationship starting with a computer? 7/24/2006
Is it even possible? How can you get away with it when some
of the people you meet are married and want a discreet relationship?
Sex only is good if you know that going in but not if you don't
and are expecting something else entirely. I guess I'm
just not good at weeding out what I don't want yet.
6 Comments,
169 Views,
6 Votes
,1.37 Score
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TRUST, HONEST and INTEGRITY.... 7/15/2006
Since I have been active in this lifestyle (8yrs) I have
learned 3 important lessons in this wonderful lifestyle
of BDSM and D.s; they are TRUST, HONESTY and INTEGRITY.
I want to share this with anyone who will take the time to
read what I have myself learned.
TRUST is an essential requirement in establishing a BDSM
and ...
5 Comments,
336 Views,
24 Votes
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“Life as a bottoms’ top” 7/13/2006
Hello thank you for taking the time to read this rambling.
I was married to a Male Marine for over twenty years and after
all that time of (if I may modestly say) perfecting my talents
as a bottom – I find my preferences to be more toward get some
hunger hole (mouth or ass) and mercifully cramming it full
to my satisfaction with my fat dick. This is not to say I do
not enjoy the same at ...
1 Comments,
117 Views,
1 Votes
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Lying submissives 6/23/2006
Submissive men sometimes lie to Mistress. This happens
when they want to present themselves as more submissive
than they are. Should a Mistress dismiss a liar? I think,
she could give him a chance to prove himself prior to dismissal.
Set him a difficult task, do not forgive a liar easily.
1 Comments,
138 Views,
4 Votes
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Being a Mistress 6/23/2006
A Mistress should understand that the submissive will
try to "test" her, like a would do to a master.
Be firm, and use the "hot stove" principle:
every time the hot stove is touched, it burns the hand that
touched it (ie every time a submissive is out of line, Mistress
punishes him). Of course, the punishments should match
the crime
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2 Votes
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Too much information too soon? 6/16/2006
Is it possible to reveal too much about one's self too
soon in a relationship?
I'm the kind of guy that will answer you truthfully
about anything you ask with little to no forethought about
the repercussions my answer may cause. Despite my usual
quietness, I'm not afraid to tell you what I think.
But, there are times when I feel that I have said a little
too much when it comes to ...
4 Comments,
238 Views,
3 Votes
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How can you be sure about the other? 5/22/2006
I am wondering who else has been in this situation? You are
with a dom/sub they are already in a full relationship that
is not dealing with bdsm/alt, their other half does not
know anything about what they are into. So here is my question;
If they are not being true to the other half and telling them
nothing or lieing to them, how can you completely trust
what they are saying to you as ...
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192 Views,
0 Votes
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How does a Dom decide when it is time to collar a sub? 5/22/2006
I am new more to the Dom side I have been chatting and getting
to know a sub very well....I want to approach and collar
her. My question is how do you know when the time is right?
How do I know she is ready to be collared by me and that is what
she is looking for?
0 Comments,
149 Views,
1 Votes
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please help... any counsellors (a women's reply would help me more) 5/19/2006
I've got a very strange problem with my girlfriend...
what do i do... please help...
i have a girl friend and she's really sweet and we both
are in love for about a year now... we both get along very
well and we understand each other perfectly... And most
of all we both respect each other very much...
But my girlfriend is having some health problems... VERY
COMPLICATED ...
4 Comments,
164 Views,
2 Votes
,2.42 Score
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T-Girls 5/5/2006
Hello to all...
Im in search of sexy T-Girls that looking to be with one guy.
My past experiences with them have be so -so. I guess because
they get so much attention...it's hard for them to
be with one guy. But, you know what? I'm not going to
sterotype all of them...so this is my message to the world.
If there is a sexy T-Girl out there who wants a ...
0 Comments,
148 Views,
2 Votes
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Collars and Getting Over 5/5/2006
As I cruise thru this li'l playpen
that is My life, every now and then, I find myself reevaluating,
and sometimes even second guessing, my views about the
most fundamental of my beliefs. Examining what my feelings
were, are, and what, in fact, is still changing..
I had the opportunity of chatting with a lovely submissive
the other night, and thought that the overall ...
0 Comments,
93 Views,
1 Votes
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Master Takes Me to Santuary 4/29/2006
My Master has taken me to Sanctuary in Dallas and I enjoyed
my self emensely.But boo hoo I was only there to observe
others and didn't get a chance to receive my proper
spankings or get tied up.Well he did make up for it when he
brought me home and showed me how wicked and good he could
be.The ideas I got from visiting Sanctuary were numerous, Someone
took a lot of spankings and Yes the ...
0 Comments,
116 Views,
1 Votes
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Hard to find someone serious.... 4/28/2006
Me and Mt pet has been looking for a possable live in. We have
joined many of the groups for our location, have tried talking
with many possabilities. We keep running into the same
problem, someone says they are involved and or looking
to learn. Then we start talking and thats all it is is talk,
We havent found to many people actually aactive or serious
in the kind of commitment We are ...
3 Comments,
97 Views,
5 Votes
,2.49 Score
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Help needed... 3/30/2006
Hi everyone, I'm a newbie sub who is trying to set out
on the BDSM journey. So far its going ok, but I now think I've
meet that 'dom guy' the one your warned about.
So I'm looking for some advice and any suggestions
from both subs and dom's.
Firstly we had chatted briefly, he knew I was a newbie and
looking for a dom guy to train me, it was one conversation
and with that came the ...
7 Comments,
797 Views,
29 Votes
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