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Always Think About Safety 2/11/2005
Here are my guidelines for initial meetings.
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1. Meet at a public place (coffee shoppe, resturant, ...).
Try to avoid bars and any place that might add additional
stress to the situation.
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2. If you have never been there before, make a trial run.
Know what to expect when you walk in.
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3. Bring a friend if you are not completely comfortable. ...
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A CAUTIONARY "TAIL" 1/30/2005

Dolly Pants, Diary of a Sissy Slave
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At the beginning it was a subtle phenomena as simple as mom
wanting their first to be a girl and dad wanting a little
boy. The father, R.C. we’ll call him worked long hard hours
as a coalminer. Mom, we’ll call her Debra had one older sister
and three younger ones. They all thought the baby was a “living ...
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Confirm ID 1/22/2005
Why is it that the majority of people on here don't have
a "Confirm ID"? Get an ID, people. It instills
a greater form of trust on both sides. I, personally, don't
take any replies I get seriously unless they have a "Confirm
ID". Are these people hiding something, or are they
just playing with the serious ones on here? Master Gene
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there isn't such a thing.. 1/12/2005
There should be one more book about dating, and it should
be call "Dating Safety For Dummies". if there
is one already then good luck with it because in my eyes there
isnt such a thing. I know what you are saying BS BS BS well
let me try to prove it to you, Ask yourself one thing, How
many times have you studied and rsearch a guy or girl and
became friends first before you went out with ...
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Assault 11/27/2004
Mistresses, Doms, submissives all have to worry about
the safty issue. I met a so called switch in 2004. He was charming
in the beginning but as the relationship progressed flags
started to rise.
He claimed he was divorced but would rant and rave about
his X wife, he was extremely anal about everything. Everything
had to lined up. Even his female attire had to be just so.
After about ...
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145 Votes
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Legal troubles 11/16/2004
There is another type of safty issue that needs to be addressed
here. This is not so much for those new to the lifestyle,
though I'm sure many of that stary-eyed rank can benifit
from this. I however have seen many older members of this
community fall into this trap time and again. The issue
is of underaged dating without realizing it.
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Do not get caught by this!! If the ...
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165 Votes
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Red Flags for a First Meet 11/6/2004
The name has been taken out to protect the person I am talking
about but here is the Scenario:
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Met here, e-mail sent to me, replied to and so on and so forth,
agreed to chat on another service, for realtime conversation
instant messaging. Now this person didn't like the
fact that I don't write novels as e-mails, which is
fine, but then, once in Imz...Hmmmm We chatted a few ...
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83 Votes
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whats really safe? 10/30/2004
When we talk about dating we think of the most beautiful
things, the perfect man or woman and the best sex of all time.
Then we find out the ones we date are crazy idiots who want
to exploid our bodies and mind then trash them like paper
plates, not a good thing specially with all those std's
out there. The truth is there isnt a safe way to date, be honest,
straight forward and be careful ...
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How To Be An Effective SafeCaller 10/23/2004
Dangerous people, dangerous situations. How do we ensure
our safety when we meet for the first time? How do we know
the person won’t become the abuser down the line?
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These are the most important issues for anyone meeting
anyone, anywhere.
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When a woman goes to a BDSM society meeting, she is meeting
people in a public place. Going out for coffee or a bite to ...
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54 Votes
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Don't do what I did 10/9/2004
I went to meet Wymondhamguy, andthought Ok we'll
be Ok in private, although he was older looking than his
photo, he was OK.
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When we got private we did some light things, a bit of this
and that, but I had said 'condoms' I had said no
intercouse. ( unless condoms)
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But what did he do, knelt in front of me and F***king slipped
his dick inside me the devious ...
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Safety Issues 9/18/2004
I recently responded to something written by a submi ssive
and posted under questions here. This submissive wrote
in to say that based on online and phone interaction she
met a Dominant from New York who put her in the hospital for
eight days. She made reference to scening with him while
he was heavily under the influence of alcohol. I have worked
with victims of physical and sexual assault ...
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youngman/olderwoman 9/15/2004
I am a youngman and I am interested to date older women. Call
it a fetish, but I really think that older women has a lot
to offer compare to younger women. Here's a few : 1.
OLDER WOMEN MORE CONFIDENT - THEY KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, WHETHER
IT'S SEX OR COMPANIONSHIP.
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2. OLDER WOMEN ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE - THEY DON'T
DEPEND ON A MAN TO PAY FOR THEM, THAT MEANS ...
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Pre-Scene Negotiations 7/30/2004
I’ve been giving this list to my fem sub acquaintances and,
over the past few weeks the response I got the most was “Whoa,
thanks for telling me that! I would never have thought of
it!” So, I thought I’d post it to the general public. Some
of these are thing that you probably wouldn’t think of,
but that doesn’t make them any less important.
I’m going to talk about ...
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69 Votes
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Where to meet. Response 7/20/2004
When I meet a prospective partner for the first time, it
is always in a public place. Coffee houses are nice because
the athmosphere is relatively quiet and relaxed, you can
sit close and talk, get to know a person, yet it is public
enough for you to call for help if they turn out to be a little
too agressive. It's also pretty cheap (The cost of
a couple of cups of coffee) and if it is ...
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Using common sense 7/18/2004
Here is a simple yet effective safety idea for future 'dates'
and especially bondage submissives. If and when you finally
agree to meet make a note of where you are meeting (make it
a public place so you have witnesses to your meeting) get
as many of your partners's details and proof of identity
and post them to yourself (at home or suitable pickup) this
would deter most of the unsavoury ...
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Mrs. Hannibal Lecter??? 7/5/2004
I've recently had an email encounter with someone
from this website who is a Dom. SHE had invited me to her network.
I'm a little frightened of this because when I checked
a profile under her AOL account it was all in some type of
code and I've seen the word "Cannibal"
in it. Just wanted to give a heads up to the fellas and ladies
here. You can't be too shore of who you will meet out ...
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36 Votes
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RE. Dating Safety 4/5/2004
OMG what the hell is wrong with this guy. That sounds like
he died and went straight to Alt heaven lol. But I suppose
if that isnt for you, people should be careful and thoroughly
find out what their getting themselves into.
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Tens unit safety 4/2/2004
Number one it is never a good idea to use a physical device
such as a tens unit. It is used for physical therapy. That
device could cause your muscles to go into spasms.
It could also make blood vessels contract and not in a good
way. It can cause real bad pain if put into the hands of the
wrong person. I have a tens unit for a shoulder injury and
it has instructions on the correct way of ...
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Novices might want to train in groups 3/26/2004
More so than in other relationships, submissives and masochists
inevitably take particular risks in meeting someone new.
And it's worse for novices. In this light, I want to
praise the bravery of all who voluntarily enter a relationship
as a submissive. It is always an act of courage to submit
yourself to the attentions of us dominants.
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One way (among many options) for ...
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When Meeting Someone, It is Always Good to Take Precautions 1/28/2004
I think many of us- both men and women- are intimidated by
the idea that we might somehow compromise our safety and
security if we "date strangers from the net".
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Many years ago, if you were to tell a friend that you had met
someone on the net, their first reaction might be something
along the lines of "So you're really THAT desperate?".
But as more and more of us have ...
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It could have happened to me 1/19/2004
There is a book entitled "Anyone You Want Me To Be"
I suggest...eveyrone buy it Dom and sub alike. The reasons
I will go into now.
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When I was a brand new submissive, I made about every error
one could make. I met someone claiming to be a Dom on AOL...He
lied about being married and having the usual things
I had found out leter. He wanted me to come out to Nebraska
and ...
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79 Votes
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my enslavement 12/1/2002
I was coming from the store after picking up a couple packs
of smokes. As I came up the street I saw a bunch of cop cars
on the street in front of the crib. I stood at the corner watching
hoping they weren;t at my place. Soon I saw two cops dragging
my boyfreind out and throwing him into a car. I knew then
going home wasn';t a good choice.
I walked the streets for a bit finally going ...
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